This list is my reminder when I fall off the horse:
2) Every decision ever made has been destructive or constructive or it wasn’t really a decision at all. It was being passive. Making any decision is better than making no decision.
3) The more decisions you make, the more actions you take, the more motivated you feel and the more you do. Waiting for inspiration to act isn't what begets accomplishments.
4) Courage = Wisdom + Action. Motivation = Energy + Will
5) Every time you do ‘courage’, you get a reward – a boost of confidence. A feeling that you can tolerate risk or change or loss. That you can go out and make it happen. Courage is how you father/mother/parent yourself. ( My fav!)
6) You can never lose by making a decision, even if it goes wrong. From mistakes we grow, and the more decisions we make, the better we get at it. The cure for feeling trapped is making a decision.
7) To be able to stand up for oneself, we have to have an identity. So it’s a very good idea to give kids preferences and choices so that they can develop an identity. It's very nice to do the same for yourself, too. It'll help you define who you are, and influence what you want to do with your life and what you want from it.
8) Friendship is enjoying each others positive, emotional energy. Spend time IRL. It's like therapy only better because it's free!
9) Assertiveness is mothering yourself, without forcing or manipulating others, to get your needs met. Find out what your needs are and find ways to meet those needs without necessarily depending on others to fill the voids for you.
10) Courage is to face the fear of ridicule or failure. When we do courage or assertiveness, those are the loneliest times. You may be swimming against the tide, but that’s okay because it’s going to allow you to grow. It's called growing pains for a reason.
11) When we suffer over things we have no control over, that’s when our positive energy is being replaced by negative energy. So train yourself to listen to the word ‘no’ more often and train yourself to say the word ‘no’ more often too. This is my biggest reminder to myself.
This is the list that helps me get back in the saddle. What do you say to keep your head in the game? What works for you? Would love your feedback.